You Are Not Useless… Here’s Why.

You Are Not Useless… Here’s Why.

Hearing others refer to themselves as “useless” or insinuating this belief with other words breaks my heart. Many people struggling with anxiety, depression or confidence issues may be familiar with the feelings of worthlessness or incapability but I want to assure you that your mind can be a bully and relentlessly bombard you with negativity even though you are definitely NOT useless. You ARE: worthy, necessary and USEFUL… here’s why.


Not a single person out of the entire population of the planet (7.6 billion people!!!) is the same as you. Your voice, smile, face, personality… everything about you is unique.

Your self reflection shows that you are conscientious, you want to put the best version of yourself out to the world. This in itself is admirable.

Making mistakes is not a sign of weakness or stupidity. Everybody messes up but you probably only notice when it happens to you. These accidents or errors will help you grow as a person: embrace them as much as you can.

You have a multitude of talents and passions even if you haven’t discovered them yet. You’re capable of learning new skills or enhancing current ones whenever you’re ready to work on them.

Negative comments from other people are not equivalent to them disliking you as an entire person. As mentioned earlier, you can have flaws but they are not a reflection of futility. Accept rejection and take criticisms as a way of improving yourself rather than punishing yourself.

The people around you are grateful for your existence. Friends, family, peers, strangers. Even though you don’t always notice, you are surrounded by people who appreciate you.

You’re allowed to be sad. You’re allowed to be happy. You’re allowed to be anxious. You’re allowed to be confident. Your feelings are valid and natural.

The list could go on but hopefully by now you can start your journey of understanding how worthy you are. May your confidence flourish.


If these feelings are becoming overwhelming and are negatively impacting your life, please reach out to somebody for help.

I’m not a professional so here are links to some websites that may provide more information, help or support if necessary:

https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/feeling-worthless

https://psychcentral.com/blog/when-you-feel-worthless/

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/open-letter-feeling-worthless

I am here for you all! Although my audience is small, I really hope to create a supportive community that can have open conversations without judgement. Please share any thoughts or ideas you could add with regards to this post in the comments.

Thank you for reading! Follow and like for more.

Stay safe, lots of love,

Grace x

Join My Journey: Studying Fashion From Home (Part 1)

Join My Journey: Studying Fashion From Home (Part 1)

Fashion is an aesthetic expression I’ve always been hugely fascinated and excited by, therefore, I decided now is a great time to develop my knowledge of the art form further. This blog post will introduce you to my journey of studying fashion from home; looking at areas of inquiry and certain designers I am personally interested in. Please feel free to join the journey!

Please note: I am not following a syllabus and I’m certainly not a professional. This is purely for the satisfaction of learning new content whilst in quarantine, with the hope of continuing it for as long as possible.


Without further ado, welcome to part one…

I adore fashion journalism: it’s a dream job of mine. The first step of developing my knowledge of the fashion spectrum was simple because it was something I regularly do anyway… reading and writing articles, blogposts and magazines. Links to my favourite recent articles:

Secondly, I decided to take an online course from Institut Francais de la mode (French Fashion Institute) on FutureLearn entitled “Understanding Fashion: From Business To Culture” and so far, it is marvellously motivational and informative. I’m currently one week 1 of 4 so shall talk in more detail about the course in a future post. During week one, hearing from Simon Porte Jacquemus truly captivated me as his intense love for his job was revealed. This leads me onto step 3…

Step 3 of this exploration was the point in which I moved onto studying an individual designer… Jacquemus who has created one of the most well known upcoming brand in the industry. Having previously been obsessed with his lavender field runway (s/s 2020 “Le Coup de Soleil”), mini bag trend and after understanding his dedication during the online course, I was inspired to delve deeper into everything Jacquemus.

This began by me rewatching the Le Coup de Soleil runway video, this time taking note of anything significantly thought provoking (favourite pieces, artistic references etc). It was difficult not to make note of every single detail because I almost certainly could have… the collection is wonderful and the entire production is perfection. Next, I looked at previous collections and runway videos. Moving onto interviews, I began to establish a more detailed understanding of Jacquemus’ creative process and reasoning for creating his brand in the way he has. Before I knew it, I’d become a huge fan.

Inevitably, step 4 was MORE RESEARCH! I was eager to study more designers in detail, getting to know their garments as well as their motivations in the industry, using similar methods to those mentioned previously with regards to Jacquemus! Below is a list of a few more designers I looked at:

Step 5 will begin for me tomorrow, moodboard creation. Scrapbooking is something I have loved for a long time, it’s therapeutic, relaxing and satisfying. I am going to build up a portfolio/ scrap book of runway looks and magazine cut-outs and formulate them in a way in which I can annotate but is also aesthetically pleasing. If this goes well, I’ll share the results in the next post of this series!

In true Pinterest style, here are some pictures that captivate fashion study/ work to motivate us!

CREDITS: (order of top left to bottom right)
freyawewer on Instagram
Rose Inc. on Instagram
FashiionGoneRouge @ bellathomas on Instagram
Deborah-lovegrove on blogspot
DGTRF on Pinterest

Thank you so much for reading today’s post. I hope you enjoyed the first part of the ‘Join My Journey’ series! Part 2 will be up soon. Comment any thoughts or questions you have below, leave a like if you liked it and follow for more content!

Stay safe! Lots of love,

Grace x

Music Inspired Fashion

Music Inspired Fashion

The magic of music lies in it’s ability to depict a different story and aura to each individual. Today I decided to create something new and merge two art forms (music and fashion) and show how music can potentially inspire outfits.


#1 Adore You, Harry Styles

Walk in your rainbow paradise
Strawberry lipstick state of mind
I get so lost inside your eyes”

Revolving around the overwhelming infatuation and excitement in the early stages of a relationship, this song conveys colourful happiness and the state of being carefree, hence the bright, loose clothing. The enticing and kaleidoscopic nature of the single, inspired by the 80s, encouraged me to add a pair of flared trousers.

Head to toe details below…
  • Sunglasses: Gucci, inspired by Harry’s kissy Instagram post
  • Eyeshadow png: Polyvore
  • Top: Kay Top in Bright Green, h:ours, Revolve
  • Trousers: Annina Trouser Jean in Idyll, Citizens of Humanity, Revolve

#2 Visions of Gideon, Sufjan Stevens

I have loved you for the last time
Visions of Gideon, visions of Gideon

This heartbreaking yet tranquil song is a reminder of the beautiful aesthetics in the movie ‘Call Me By Your Name’. The biblical reference, susurration and vocal vibrations influenced soft, neutral tones in the garments I featured below. Gold is a colour connoting illumination, prosperity and is representative of the spark between lovers.

Head to toe details below…
  • Top and Skirt: Sawyer in Gold, Majorelle, Revolve
  • Bag: Bianca Ball Mesh Handle Bag in Gold, olga berg, Revolve
  • Paired with a beautiful glitter eyeshadow look (cc: Pinterest)

#3 Young and Beautiful, Lana Del Rey

“Will you still love me
When I’m no longer young and beautiful?

Written for the soundtrack of The Great Gatsby, this song relates to the flapper girl image and the reality of the twenties. Lana’s ethereal voice corresponds with the graceful beauty expected of women therefore I have selected pieces that are loosely inspired by the twenties (opulent feathers and sophisticated colours) and ‘The Great Gatsby’ that are still fashionable now.

Head to toe details below…
  • Bag: Jacquemus Black Le Grand Chiquito Top Handle Bag
  • Dress: Revolve, Hailey Dress in Ivory and Black, LPA
  • Shoe: Revolve, Alea Heel In Black, RAYE
  • Perfectly paired with a bag in one hand, a champagne flute in the other

Thank you so much for reading! This is a new idea so I only featured three songs with brief descriptions, however, dependant on feedback, I could add to the list in the future. Please let me know your thoughts in the comment section below.

Stay safe! Lots of love,

Grace x

My Advice for Year 12 Students

My Advice for Year 12 Students

As a Year 13 student myself (not really anymore because of coronavirus), I would love to provide some tips and advice regarding the last year of school education.

I understand that this situation may be daunting for year 12s who may worry they are missing academic time which could be detrimental to their exams next year.

If you’re in that position or know somebody who is, hopefully this post will help. I’m neither an A* student or an expert but I’ll cover topics such as revision tips, exam anxiety, studying at home and balancing life and revision.

#1 MOTIVATING YOURSELF TO REVISE (AND WORK FROM HOME WITHOUT A TEACHER)

You sit in your room and there are probably hundreds of things you’d prefer to do instead of revision. I get it, motivating yourself to revise can often feel impossible, however, when the exam date nears, your stress will be reduced and confidence in the subject will be increased if you revise. Three motivation methods:

  • Think about how you want to feel on results day. For me, I had a dream university and set of grades I desired… imagining results day and potentially not getting into university really inspired me to revise on days where I had little motivation.
  • Reward yourself. Set goals and when you achieve them, give yourself a reward i.e. have your favourite snack after 40 minutes of revision. This should strengthen your self control and motivate you to get things done.
  • Create a desirable revision space. I doubt you will feel inspired to revise if your desk looks like a bomb site. Create a place to revise that you feel relaxed and satisfied by. I tried to keep my desk tidy so that when I came home from school I could motivate myself to continue with some work.

#2 FINDING THE RIGHT REVISION TECHNIQUE

Everybody has their own ways of revising therefore I wouldn’t force a technique upon anyone but research has shown that testing yourself regularly is a great revision method to ensure information goes into your long term memory.

Try out different ways of revising and find which one was best for you personally. Here’s a brief list of methods to attempt:

  • Revision cards (question on one side, answer on the other)
  • Past papers and practice questions
  • Quizlet online tests
  • Watching videos on the topic
  • Recording yourself talking about the topic
  • Teaching information to a friend
  • Key word practice
  • Make your own PowerPoint presentations
  • Stick post it notes around your house or in your room

For me, revision cards were the best for me because I would make them as soon as I covered the information in class and then could always come back to them as a quick way of recalling the information. I sometimes took them on long journeys with me or up to bed the night before exams to refresh my knowledge. Finding the effort to do entire practice papers was difficult but doing them is a really effective method because realistically, it aids the skills you’ll need in the actual exam.

#3 TACKLING EXAM ANXIETY

I’m a naturally very anxious person and I found exams very stressful throughout my time at school so my advice may not be perfect despite coming from experience. I would literally get anxious about getting anxious and it became a vicious cycle. Infact, I had to sit my GCSE exams in a separate room because my anxiety would make me feel physically ill to point where my vision was blurred and I struggled to read the questions through the dizziness.

In Year 13 however, I really tried to work on this, researching methods to ensure I could go into the exam hall and sit the exam with all my attention on the question paper rather than anything else.

Things to consider if you get anxious about exams:

  • Your feelings are common, don’t be hard on yourself.
  • Breathing exercises before you enter the exam hall can distract your brain from it’s panicked state and they help focus on relaxing yourself instead.
  • There is somebody you can talk to if it becomes too overwhelming to deal with alone. Perhaps a parent, sibling, teacher or friend.
  • Take a bottle of water into the exam hall.
  • If you’re anxious the night before, fragrances such as lavender aid sleep and should make you feel calm.

Please speak to a professional if you get extreme anxiety. Speaking up is the best thing you can do!

FINALLY, #4 PREPARING TO ENTER YEAR 13

Enjoy your Summer break as much as you can. Realistically, you aren’t going to want to revise everyday during your break, nor would that be good for you. Don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Perhaps look into what you’ll study next academic year and read ahead on some books or just key words.

Find a balance between work and social life with a timetable or just loosely planning ahead.

March Favourites

March Favourites

March 2020 will be described as bizarre, monumental and intense by many including myself, however, I’m dedicating this post to positivity and my favourite things I discovered and enjoyed during the month despite the circumstances.

WHAT I WATCHED

If you haven’t watched it already, ‘This Country’ on BBC is the best mockumentary series I’ve ever watched and I thoroughly reccomend it. The characters are so endearing and everything about the programme is hilarious. I watched it with my family and we laughed our way through the series within days.

On YouTube, I’ve been watching ‘Freddy My Love’ who creates aesthetically pleasing, girly videos on all things fashion. Take one look at her channel and you can see the worthwhile effort she puts into making her content beautiful.

I also really enjoy watching interviews of actors and actresses after I watch a certain movie or tv shows, infact I’d love to become a show business journalist myself one day. Throughout March, I watched many Timothee Chalamet interviews because his dedication to his art is amazing to watch and hear about. With reference to earlier, I’ve also watched interviews about This Country to get more information on the creative process of creating such a raw, funny programme.

WHAT I LISTENED TO

For my birthday, I received a Google Nest speaker and the volume and quality are incredible, it’s certainly one of my March favourites as I’ve been playing all my music on it whilst relaxing at home.

My top 3 albums to listen to recently have been Fine Line (Harry Styles), The Divine Feminine (Mac Miller) and Lust For Life (Lana Del Rey), none of which were released this month but I just adore them all. My Harry Styles concert has been postponed until 2021 so I have to make up for that by having virtual concerts in my room.

Alternatively, if you’re looking for a podcast to listen to rather than music, The Receipts Podcast should make you smile. The girls are down to earth and consequently hilarious, perfect to listen to if you’re ever feeling down or lonely during self isolation.

WHAT I WORE

I’ve been wearing comfy clothes most days for obvious reasons (staying at home) so my favourite pieces have been casual. Mens Primark joggers are so comfy and the right fit if you size down. During February, I went to a Vintage Kilo Sale and bought oversize jumpers which have also been perfect in March!

I’ve spent most of my days with a bare face but sometimes I put some makeup on to make myself feel better, even if I’m just staying at home. This may sound ridiculous to some people but I know many girls who are the same. Bad Gal Bang from Benefit is my current favourite mascara which is great for adding volume to your lashes and you only need to use a tiny amount! Additionally, I’ve started doing winged eyeliner (also using Benefit!) which I found impossible at first but have now mastered the right technique with this easy to apply eyeliner. The final makeup product to mention is Gimme Brow eyebrow gel which I use on days when I’m creating a minimalistic look.

… ♡

Ultimately, my favourite thing in March has been writing. Starting up this blog again and planning new ideas has been really exciting. Similarly, I’m currently taking an online course in fiction writing which has kept my brain active and occupied.

Thanks so much for reading. I hope April is happy and healthy for you! Feel free to share your March favourites in the comments below.

Grace x

Update!

Update!

Long time, no update… I don’t have much of an audience so doubt anyone noticed my absence HOWEVER, I’m hoping to continue regular posts for the foreseeable future!

Many things have happened since my last post… I started driving lessons, I stopped driving lessons, had a great summer, went to lots of concerts, turned 18, began revising diligently for A Levels until yesterday.

Yesterday, as most people know by now, the news broke that A Level exams are cancelled due to the global pandemic, the coronavirus. Despite being devastated that my school experience was cut short and I didn’t have time to mentally prepare for my last day, this is all for the greater good. I’m counting my blessings that I am healthy and can self isolate at home with my family and food as not everybody has those privileges.

There is a huge amount of uncertainty regarding the virus, lockdown and prolonged deprivation from social contact, which may have a detrimental affect on people’s mental health. I would love to use this blog as a form of positive escapism, as that was my goal when originally creating it.

Sending everyone lots of love and strength during this time.

Thanks for reading! Please follow if you’re interested in more (I’m really looking forward to posting lots of fashion related content as well as beauty, mental health and overall everyday lifestyle related posts)

Grace x

Introduction

Introduction

In the midst of the daunting, overwhelming and somewhat stressful environment of the internet, I decided to create a blog to serve as a form of positive and productive escapism…hence the name.

Hopefully, through this blog, I can provide entertainment, inspiration, reviews and advice for others, covering light topics such as fashion, lifestyle and travel in addition to important discussions about mental health, discrimination, social controversies and more. Hopefully there’s something for everyone!

My name is Grace and I was expecting to take my A Levels (in Philosophy, English and Psychology) this year, however, for obvious reasons they have been cancelled. Thankfully, I’m still going to university this September. Finding a balance between academics and a social life can be a struggle, however, I strongly believe having a break from work and enjoying other hobbies and interests is incredibly beneficial. As a student myself, perhaps this blog could help others who often feel trapped, stressed and anxious about their workload, future or life in general.

As cringeworthy as it sounds, you’re never alone in your mentality, even if it often feels that way. Having somebody to relate or talk to can lift a weight off your shoulders. Ideally, I’d love my blog to be a catalyst for open conversations and a support network for anyone that needs it.

So, welcome to my blog, thank you for reading and I hope you visit soon.

Grace x

A Feminist Timeline (in pictures) & the Abortion Ban

A Feminist Timeline (in pictures) & the Abortion Ban


A summary of the different waves of feminism, presented in pictures.


feminism

noun

the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.


19th – Early 20th century

First Wave Feminism. Focus primarily on legal issues and the suffragette movement which resulted in women having the right to vote.

1960s

Second Wave Feminism:

Intra-feminism and tackling issues such as sexuality, equality and discrimination.

Black feminism rose in popularity. The civil rights and feminist movements collided.

1970s

French Feminism: Écriture Féminine (feminine writing) Helene Cixuous: one of the early thinkers in poststructuralist feminist theory. She founded the first centre feminist study at a European university.

1980s

Difference feminism (there are differences between men and women but that no value judgment can be placed upon them and both genders have equal moral status.)

1990s

Third Wave Feminism – Individualism and Diversity redefining feminism.

Early 1990s: Riot Grrrl

Combination of feminist consciousness, punk style and politics.

Punk culture and individual expression in forms of music, art, dance, literature and film. This movement promoted individual freedom.

2010-PRESENT

Fourth Wave Feminism is heavily associated with the use of social media.

Key Focuses:

~Street & Workplace harassment

~Sexual assault

~Rape Culture

~Abortion

~My body, my choice

~Gender pay gap

~Anti-Trump protests

~LBGT rights

Women still continue to unite and protest for equality as marches such as the ‘Women’s March’ take place yearly, all around the world.

Celebrities have a larger influence than ever, using their large platform to emphasise their political views, encouraging young women and men to smash the patriarchy and fight for their rights.


While planning and writing this blog post, it just so happens that American politicians have tampered with women’s rights once again. Abortion is now illegal in Alabama, meaning that women will be imprisoned and punished (serving more time than potential rapists!!!) if they chose to have an abortion, irrespective of the reasoning. Even though women make up 51% of Alabama’s population, the lawmakers are 85% male. There are only four women in the 35-seat Alabama Senate, and they are all Democrats. This situation is a huge reminder (if there weren’t enough) that feminism is 100000% still relevant.

Below are some posts from social media that encapsulate feminist views on this horrendous abortion ban.

𝖶𝗁𝗒 𝗐𝗈𝗆𝖾𝗇 𝗁𝖺𝗏𝖾 𝖺𝖻𝗈𝗋𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇𝗌.
𝖯𝗈𝗉𝗌𝗍𝖺𝗋 𝖹𝖺𝗋𝖺 𝖫𝖺𝗋𝗌𝗈𝗇 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗁𝗒𝗉𝗈𝖼𝗋𝗂𝗌𝗒 𝗈𝖿 𝖺𝗇𝗍𝗂-𝖼𝗁𝗈𝗂𝖼𝖾 𝖺𝗋𝗀𝗎𝗆𝖾𝗇𝗍𝗌
𝖶𝗁𝗒 𝖿𝖾𝗆𝗂𝗇𝗂𝗌𝗆 𝗂𝗌 𝗌𝗍𝗂𝗅𝗅 𝗂𝗆𝗉𝗈𝗋𝗍𝖺𝗇𝗍
𝖤𝗆𝗉𝗁𝖺𝗌𝗂𝗌 𝗈𝗇 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗎𝗇𝖿𝖺𝗂𝗋 𝖽𝗂𝗌𝖼𝗋𝗂𝗆𝗂𝗇𝖺𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇
𝖭𝗈 𝗎𝗍𝖾𝗋𝗎𝗌, 𝗇𝗈 𝗈𝗉𝗂𝗇𝗂𝗈𝗇.

Finally, this isn’t only an issue in Alabama. Other similar restrictive bans have been passed in Arkansas, Georgia, Kentucky, Mississippi, North Dakota and Ohio. And that’s just America.

Similarly, abortion bans exist in:

Northern Ireland, Liechenstein, Andorra, Monaco, Malta, Poland, San Marino and in many more locations.

The fight isn’t over. Here’s a link to a Vogue article that gives helpful information on where to donate and how to keep abortion legal:

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.teenvogue.com/story/where-to-donate-and-how-to-help-keep-abortion-legal/amp


Thank you so much for reading. It is so important to understand the history of feminism and know where feminism stands today.

Comment any thoughts you’d like to share! Additionally, please let me know what else you’d like from this blog. Perhaps I could publish another post about feminism, female empowerment music/literature/art for example? Feel free to leave opinions and recommendations.

-Grace x

“𝓕𝓮𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓲𝓼𝓶 𝓲𝓼𝓷’𝓽 𝓪𝓫𝓸𝓾𝓽 𝓶𝓪𝓴𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝔀𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓷 𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓷𝓰. 𝓦𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓷 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓪𝓵𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓭𝔂 𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓷𝓰. 𝓘𝓽’𝓼 𝓪𝓫𝓸𝓾𝓽 𝓬𝓱𝓪𝓷𝓰𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝔀𝓪𝔂 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝔀𝓸𝓻𝓵𝓭 𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓬𝓮𝓲𝓿𝓮𝓼 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓮𝓷𝓰𝓽𝓱” 𝓖 𝓓 𝓐𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓸𝓷.