You Are Not Useless… Here’s Why.

You Are Not Useless… Here’s Why.

Hearing others refer to themselves as “useless” or insinuating this belief with other words breaks my heart. Many people struggling with anxiety, depression or confidence issues may be familiar with the feelings of worthlessness or incapability but I want to assure you that your mind can be a bully and relentlessly bombard you with negativity even though you are definitely NOT useless. You ARE: worthy, necessary and USEFUL… here’s why.


Not a single person out of the entire population of the planet (7.6 billion people!!!) is the same as you. Your voice, smile, face, personality… everything about you is unique.

Your self reflection shows that you are conscientious, you want to put the best version of yourself out to the world. This in itself is admirable.

Making mistakes is not a sign of weakness or stupidity. Everybody messes up but you probably only notice when it happens to you. These accidents or errors will help you grow as a person: embrace them as much as you can.

You have a multitude of talents and passions even if you haven’t discovered them yet. You’re capable of learning new skills or enhancing current ones whenever you’re ready to work on them.

Negative comments from other people are not equivalent to them disliking you as an entire person. As mentioned earlier, you can have flaws but they are not a reflection of futility. Accept rejection and take criticisms as a way of improving yourself rather than punishing yourself.

The people around you are grateful for your existence. Friends, family, peers, strangers. Even though you don’t always notice, you are surrounded by people who appreciate you.

You’re allowed to be sad. You’re allowed to be happy. You’re allowed to be anxious. You’re allowed to be confident. Your feelings are valid and natural.

The list could go on but hopefully by now you can start your journey of understanding how worthy you are. May your confidence flourish.


If these feelings are becoming overwhelming and are negatively impacting your life, please reach out to somebody for help.

I’m not a professional so here are links to some websites that may provide more information, help or support if necessary:

https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/feeling-worthless

https://psychcentral.com/blog/when-you-feel-worthless/

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/open-letter-feeling-worthless

I am here for you all! Although my audience is small, I really hope to create a supportive community that can have open conversations without judgement. Please share any thoughts or ideas you could add with regards to this post in the comments.

Thank you for reading! Follow and like for more.

Stay safe, lots of love,

Grace x

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Join My Journey: Studying Fashion From Home (Part 1)

Join My Journey: Studying Fashion From Home (Part 1)

Fashion is an aesthetic expression I’ve always been hugely fascinated and excited by, therefore, I decided now is a great time to develop my knowledge of the art form further. This blog post will introduce you to my journey of studying fashion from home; looking at areas of inquiry and certain designers I am personally interested in. Please feel free to join the journey!

Please note: I am not following a syllabus and I’m certainly not a professional. This is purely for the satisfaction of learning new content whilst in quarantine, with the hope of continuing it for as long as possible.


Without further ado, welcome to part one…

I adore fashion journalism: it’s a dream job of mine. The first step of developing my knowledge of the fashion spectrum was simple because it was something I regularly do anyway… reading and writing articles, blogposts and magazines. Links to my favourite recent articles:

Secondly, I decided to take an online course from Institut Francais de la mode (French Fashion Institute) on FutureLearn entitled “Understanding Fashion: From Business To Culture” and so far, it is marvellously motivational and informative. I’m currently one week 1 of 4 so shall talk in more detail about the course in a future post. During week one, hearing from Simon Porte Jacquemus truly captivated me as his intense love for his job was revealed. This leads me onto step 3…

Step 3 of this exploration was the point in which I moved onto studying an individual designer… Jacquemus who has created one of the most well known upcoming brand in the industry. Having previously been obsessed with his lavender field runway (s/s 2020 β€œLe Coup de Soleil”), mini bag trend and after understanding his dedication during the online course, I was inspired to delve deeper into everything Jacquemus.

This began by me rewatching the Le Coup de Soleil runway video, this time taking note of anything significantly thought provoking (favourite pieces, artistic references etc). It was difficult not to make note of every single detail because I almost certainly could have… the collection is wonderful and the entire production is perfection. Next, I looked at previous collections and runway videos. Moving onto interviews, I began to establish a more detailed understanding of Jacquemus’ creative process and reasoning for creating his brand in the way he has. Before I knew it, I’d become a huge fan.

Inevitably, step 4 was MORE RESEARCH! I was eager to study more designers in detail, getting to know their garments as well as their motivations in the industry, using similar methods to those mentioned previously with regards to Jacquemus! Below is a list of a few more designers I looked at:

Step 5 will begin for me tomorrow, moodboard creation. Scrapbooking is something I have loved for a long time, it’s therapeutic, relaxing and satisfying. I am going to build up a portfolio/ scrap book of runway looks and magazine cut-outs and formulate them in a way in which I can annotate but is also aesthetically pleasing. If this goes well, I’ll share the results in the next post of this series!

In true Pinterest style, here are some pictures that captivate fashion study/ work to motivate us!

CREDITS: (order of top left to bottom right)
freyawewer on Instagram
Rose Inc. on Instagram
FashiionGoneRouge @ bellathomas on Instagram
Deborah-lovegrove on blogspot
DGTRF on Pinterest

Thank you so much for reading today’s post. I hope you enjoyed the first part of the ‘Join My Journey’ series! Part 2 will be up soon. Comment any thoughts or questions you have below, leave a like if you liked it and follow for more content!

Stay safe! Lots of love,

Grace x

Music Inspired Fashion

Music Inspired Fashion

The magic of music lies in it’s ability to depict a different story and aura to each individual. Today I decided to create something new and merge two art forms (music and fashion) and show how music can potentially inspire outfits.


#1 Adore You, Harry Styles

Walk in your rainbow paradise
Strawberry lipstick state of mind
I get so lost inside your eyes”

Revolving around the overwhelming infatuation and excitement in the early stages of a relationship, this song conveys colourful happiness and the state of being carefree, hence the bright, loose clothing. The enticing and kaleidoscopic nature of the single, inspired by the 80s, encouraged me to add a pair of flared trousers.

Head to toe details below…
  • Sunglasses: Gucci, inspired by Harry’s kissy Instagram post
  • Eyeshadow png: Polyvore
  • Top: Kay Top in Bright Green, h:ours, Revolve
  • Trousers: Annina Trouser Jean in Idyll, Citizens of Humanity, Revolve

#2 Visions of Gideon, Sufjan Stevens

I have loved you for the last time
Visions of Gideon, visions of Gideon

This heartbreaking yet tranquil song is a reminder of the beautiful aesthetics in the movie ‘Call Me By Your Name’. The biblical reference, susurration and vocal vibrations influenced soft, neutral tones in the garments I featured below. Gold is a colour connoting illumination, prosperity and is representative of the spark between lovers.

Head to toe details below…
  • Top and Skirt: Sawyer in Gold, Majorelle, Revolve
  • Bag: Bianca Ball Mesh Handle Bag in Gold, olga berg, Revolve
  • Paired with a beautiful glitter eyeshadow look (cc: Pinterest)

#3 Young and Beautiful, Lana Del Rey

“Will you still love me
When I’m no longer young and beautiful?

Written for the soundtrack of The Great Gatsby, this song relates to the flapper girl image and the reality of the twenties. Lana’s ethereal voice corresponds with the graceful beauty expected of women therefore I have selected pieces that are loosely inspired by the twenties (opulent feathers and sophisticated colours) and ‘The Great Gatsby’ that are still fashionable now.

Head to toe details below…
  • Bag: Jacquemus Black Le Grand Chiquito Top Handle Bag
  • Dress: Revolve, Hailey Dress in Ivory and Black, LPA
  • Shoe: Revolve, Alea Heel In Black, RAYE
  • Perfectly paired with a bag in one hand, a champagne flute in the other

Thank you so much for reading! This is a new idea so I only featured three songs with brief descriptions, however, dependant on feedback, I could add to the list in the future. Please let me know your thoughts in the comment section below.

Stay safe! Lots of love,

Grace x

My Advice for Year 12 Students

My Advice for Year 12 Students

As a Year 13 student myself (not really anymore because of coronavirus), I would love to provide some tips and advice regarding the last year of school education.

I understand that this situation may be daunting for year 12s who may worry they are missing academic time which could be detrimental to their exams next year.

If you’re in that position or know somebody who is, hopefully this post will help. I’m neither an A* student or an expert but I’ll cover topics such as revision tips, exam anxiety, studying at home and balancing life and revision.

#1 MOTIVATING YOURSELF TO REVISE (AND WORK FROM HOME WITHOUT A TEACHER)

You sit in your room and there are probably hundreds of things you’d prefer to do instead of revision. I get it, motivating yourself to revise can often feel impossible, however, when the exam date nears, your stress will be reduced and confidence in the subject will be increased if you revise. Three motivation methods:

  • Think about how you want to feel on results day. For me, I had a dream university and set of grades I desired… imagining results day and potentially not getting into university really inspired me to revise on days where I had little motivation.
  • Reward yourself. Set goals and when you achieve them, give yourself a reward i.e. have your favourite snack after 40 minutes of revision. This should strengthen your self control and motivate you to get things done.
  • Create a desirable revision space. I doubt you will feel inspired to revise if your desk looks like a bomb site. Create a place to revise that you feel relaxed and satisfied by. I tried to keep my desk tidy so that when I came home from school I could motivate myself to continue with some work.

#2 FINDING THE RIGHT REVISION TECHNIQUE

Everybody has their own ways of revising therefore I wouldn’t force a technique upon anyone but research has shown that testing yourself regularly is a great revision method to ensure information goes into your long term memory.

Try out different ways of revising and find which one was best for you personally. Here’s a brief list of methods to attempt:

  • Revision cards (question on one side, answer on the other)
  • Past papers and practice questions
  • Quizlet online tests
  • Watching videos on the topic
  • Recording yourself talking about the topic
  • Teaching information to a friend
  • Key word practice
  • Make your own PowerPoint presentations
  • Stick post it notes around your house or in your room

For me, revision cards were the best for me because I would make them as soon as I covered the information in class and then could always come back to them as a quick way of recalling the information. I sometimes took them on long journeys with me or up to bed the night before exams to refresh my knowledge. Finding the effort to do entire practice papers was difficult but doing them is a really effective method because realistically, it aids the skills you’ll need in the actual exam.

#3 TACKLING EXAM ANXIETY

I’m a naturally very anxious person and I found exams very stressful throughout my time at school so my advice may not be perfect despite coming from experience. I would literally get anxious about getting anxious and it became a vicious cycle. Infact, I had to sit my GCSE exams in a separate room because my anxiety would make me feel physically ill to point where my vision was blurred and I struggled to read the questions through the dizziness.

In Year 13 however, I really tried to work on this, researching methods to ensure I could go into the exam hall and sit the exam with all my attention on the question paper rather than anything else.

Things to consider if you get anxious about exams:

  • Your feelings are common, don’t be hard on yourself.
  • Breathing exercises before you enter the exam hall can distract your brain from it’s panicked state and they help focus on relaxing yourself instead.
  • There is somebody you can talk to if it becomes too overwhelming to deal with alone. Perhaps a parent, sibling, teacher or friend.
  • Take a bottle of water into the exam hall.
  • If you’re anxious the night before, fragrances such as lavender aid sleep and should make you feel calm.

Please speak to a professional if you get extreme anxiety. Speaking up is the best thing you can do!

FINALLY, #4 PREPARING TO ENTER YEAR 13

Enjoy your Summer break as much as you can. Realistically, you aren’t going to want to revise everyday during your break, nor would that be good for you. Don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Perhaps look into what you’ll study next academic year and read ahead on some books or just key words.

Find a balance between work and social life with a timetable or just loosely planning ahead.

March Favourites

March Favourites

March 2020 will be described as bizarre, monumental and intense by many including myself, however, I’m dedicating this post to positivity and my favourite things I discovered and enjoyed during the month despite the circumstances.

WHAT I WATCHED

If you haven’t watched it already, ‘This Country’ on BBC is the best mockumentary series I’ve ever watched and I thoroughly reccomend it. The characters are so endearing and everything about the programme is hilarious. I watched it with my family and we laughed our way through the series within days.

On YouTube, I’ve been watching ‘Freddy My Love’ who creates aesthetically pleasing, girly videos on all things fashion. Take one look at her channel and you can see the worthwhile effort she puts into making her content beautiful.

I also really enjoy watching interviews of actors and actresses after I watch a certain movie or tv shows, infact I’d love to become a show business journalist myself one day. Throughout March, I watched many Timothee Chalamet interviews because his dedication to his art is amazing to watch and hear about. With reference to earlier, I’ve also watched interviews about This Country to get more information on the creative process of creating such a raw, funny programme.

WHAT I LISTENED TO

For my birthday, I received a Google Nest speaker and the volume and quality are incredible, it’s certainly one of my March favourites as I’ve been playing all my music on it whilst relaxing at home.

My top 3 albums to listen to recently have been Fine Line (Harry Styles), The Divine Feminine (Mac Miller) and Lust For Life (Lana Del Rey), none of which were released this month but I just adore them all. My Harry Styles concert has been postponed until 2021 so I have to make up for that by having virtual concerts in my room.

Alternatively, if you’re looking for a podcast to listen to rather than music, The Receipts Podcast should make you smile. The girls are down to earth and consequently hilarious, perfect to listen to if you’re ever feeling down or lonely during self isolation.

WHAT I WORE

I’ve been wearing comfy clothes most days for obvious reasons (staying at home) so my favourite pieces have been casual. Mens Primark joggers are so comfy and the right fit if you size down. During February, I went to a Vintage Kilo Sale and bought oversize jumpers which have also been perfect in March!

I’ve spent most of my days with a bare face but sometimes I put some makeup on to make myself feel better, even if I’m just staying at home. This may sound ridiculous to some people but I know many girls who are the same. Bad Gal Bang from Benefit is my current favourite mascara which is great for adding volume to your lashes and you only need to use a tiny amount! Additionally, I’ve started doing winged eyeliner (also using Benefit!) which I found impossible at first but have now mastered the right technique with this easy to apply eyeliner. The final makeup product to mention is Gimme Brow eyebrow gel which I use on days when I’m creating a minimalistic look.

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Ultimately, my favourite thing in March has been writing. Starting up this blog again and planning new ideas has been really exciting. Similarly, I’m currently taking an online course in fiction writing which has kept my brain active and occupied.

Thanks so much for reading. I hope April is happy and healthy for you! Feel free to share your March favourites in the comments below.

Grace x

Staying Positive, Productive and Peaceful During Lockdown

Staying Positive, Productive and Peaceful During Lockdown

Yes, I’m still spending most days in my pyjamas and have been restful and languorous, however, I have recently decided that I would feel better if I could still be productive and positive during this unexpected free time.

(I understand not everybody has this privilege, such as key workers and those who need to maintain their jobs and income. I applaud these people for their persistence and hard work despite these chaotic and scary circumstances. A future post about supporting them is coming soon.)

Online…

To begin, here are some apps and websites that I’ve enjoyed utilising during this quarantine. (all free)

1. For anyone who is struggling with poor mental health/ loneliness/just wants to track their feelings, REFLECTLY is a daily mood journal that you can add to as frequently as you like, providing an opportunity for contemplation with daily questions. Personally, I use this app every night before bed to reflect on my day and find patterns in my mentality. Writing down and sharing your emotions is a great stress reliver so I highly recommend downloading this app, hopefully this can improve your mood during a difficult time.

(available on the app store)

2. PINTEREST is my current addiction. I always feel creatively motivated after scrolling through my feed and boards. There is certainly something for everyone (DIYs, interior design, makeup, comedy, celebs) but I mainly use it for fashion inspiration, pinning any outfits I like and trying to find similar pieces to incorporate into my own wardrobe. A potential idea during quarantine is to create a bucket list board of things you want to get done during lockdown and another of things you look forward to when we enter normality again.

(available in browser and on the app store)

3. For those who are struggling during lockdown because they crave the satisfaction of achieving something or alternatively have left education early due to the virus, FUTURE LEARN is an amazing platform I discovered only two days ago but was immediately impressed by. There are hundreds of free courses provided by universities covering various subjects, most of which are only a few weeks long. Personally, I’ve joined a courses on fiction writing, studying English, mental health, gender equality and fashion. Once I have completed a few courses, I’ll share my thoughts and feedback in another blog post but so far, I’m really excited by the concept.

(available in browser)

4. CALM is a well known meditation app that is perfect for relaxation. If you find yourself overwhelmed or struggling to sleep, Calm has music and masterclasses to help relieve stress, body tension and anxiety.

Offline…

If you are concerned about your screentime during this lockdown or just want to be productive without needing the internet or your phone, here is a short list of potential activities to engage in.

1. Cooking/ baking. Be it Michelin star standard or shop bought cake mixtures. (For me, the latter is more likely)

2. Reading. I’ve been reading Educated by Lara Westover and recommend this to everyone!!

3. Exercising. You could create a home circuit or go for a walk/ run (Obviously only once a day in the UK)

4. Home organisation/ cleaning. Spend this free time organising your home or just your bedroom. Maybe move around the furniture so it feels like a new and exciting space. There are probably many jobs around the house that have been put off for years that could be completed during this lockdown.

5. Listening to music. (I’ve had Harry Styles’ Fine Line on repeat)

The NHS are also looking for volunteers to do some work for them. Follow this link for more information: https://www.england.nhs.uk/participation/get-involved/volunteering/nhs-volunteer-responders/

Thanks for reading today’s post, I hope it was helpful! Feel free to share your ways of staying positive and productive in the comments below. Stay safe.

Grace x